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One of my (other) major pregnancy projects has been the redesign of our master bedroom. After six years of marriage, an overly bright green accent wall, and decor we had kept around since college, it was time to give our tiny bedroom a much needed update! Our current old farmhouse is just under 1,000 square feet. With baby #2 on the way this momma was looking to create a little nesting oasis to truly call her own!
My goal for the room was to create a light and airy space with subtle moments of color. I think the color plum is sexy and used varying shades of it as the base for the room. What’s funny is that when we finished, most of the plum color was hidden. So the “sexy” is sorta our little secret. Another beautiful element to the room, that we intentionally pursued, was to find a wall color that changed with the seasons and lighting. After hundreds of color samples, and paint swatches we decided on “Smoked Oyster” from Home Depot. It’s perfect! The images don’t do it justice, but the room literally changes shades from morning to evening every day.
If you know anything about my husband you know that, like most architects, he would live in a completely white washed house, with white furniture, and white floors and white ceilings. I on the other hand, tend to like a bit more life and flare in my home. Our different interior design opinions and love/hate relationships with color have been a battle in our marriage. We are both designers and we are both very opinionated, but we have always tried our best to work through our difference and see eye to eye. Over time we’ve realize that marriage is truly about two people becoming one, and that doesn’t just happen overnight! It’s a lifetime of working through your issues, big or small, and striving to find a common ground. Although there are also times you have to agree to disagree, I’m happy to say our aesthetic is finally meshing into something we are both really proud of.
Cale and I are super mushy and we love, love. There are so many neat pieces of art and writings that we have made for each other over the years and it was important to pull those pieces out and actually display them. After narrowing things down to some of our favorites we put together a good collection of small, yet unique, elements that truly tell our story and the way we see love. From canvas artwork and poems Cale made for me our first year of marriage (when we were broke!), custom portraits and drawings friends and family have given us as wedding gifts, the first few photos of our babies, the wine cork from the birthday party we met at, and just quotes and inspirational prints that we have connected with over the years, each item in our new room truly reminds us of our love for each other and for family. Even the found objects are rocks from a river in Oklahoma and a volcano in California, to a tiny handmade vase from a street vendor in Panama. Each piece is part of a collection from all the adventures we have shared together thus far, and an inspiration to pursue more in the future.
I love being married, but there are days when love feels far away, and it is something you really have to work at. You have to choose love. You have to remember what made you fall in love with that person in the first place. It’s on those days when the house is a mess, everyone has been sick for what feels like months on end, and Cale is working late again, that you need a reminder of where it ALL started. You need to know that this is a season, and that not all seasons of your relationship have been this challenging! Our new master bedroom update is not only a little oasis, but more than that, it helps me feel connected when we are in a busy season. On a bad day I know I can spend time in our room soaking up remnants of our roots, our adventures big and small, and our commitment to constantly pursue and keep love alive no matter how hard this season may feel.
Unfortunately, that still doesn’t stop the sounds of little feet and a screaming child from getting through our old bedroom door. For those days, I just snuggle down in my sexy plum sheets and let a pillow drown out the craziness for few moments of mommy silence (Only when Cale is home of course… or until James finds me in a good game of hide-and-seek)! :)
What makes your bedroom special? Is it the colors, the furniture, the artwork, or something else?
From The Farm
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At the end of May we celebrated our fifth wedding anniversary! We had been planning our first 24 hours without Baby James, and it turned into quite the adventure! Nestled in the basement of Cheever’s Cafe in Downtown OKC we sat with several other couples celebrating their anniversary as well. Drinking wine while attempting to eat our ice cream dessert, before it melted completely, we joked about at least this way we would die together?! We have really good Life Insurance (thanks Brad) so James would definitely be taken care of (Cale’s mom, our babysitter, didn’t think that was so funny!) . I know it sounds morbid, but sometimes you just have to roll with the punches.
After the tornadoes passed we made our way to the Skirvin. There was flooding all around the city so we had to watch out for down power lines and rushing waters. What was planned to be a romantic night turned into an apocalyptic-type adventure in the city. Oklahoma may not have giant mountains to climb or ocean waves to ride, but tornado season has proven to be quite the adrenaline rush (take that West Coast peeps!).
Nestled into our fancy hotel on the 9th floor (with AC!) we watched the world around us get a little dark and scary. We snuggled down and in between the latest HGTV Show (we don’t have cable so this was like Christmas to us!) we talked about some of our favorite memories together.
Memories like smoking a pipe on an inflatable river raft in California.
Constantly finding better ways to design our small farm house around our ever-growing family.
Moments where life was good, but still felt a little empty.
Projects we will NEVER volunteer for again (at least in July)!
Saying goodbye to our first baby, our handmade products.
Saying hello to our first real baby, James David.
Taking what feels like two steps back to move one step forward.
Being proud of our simple beginnings.
The past five years have been full of beautiful and hard moments. Moments of change and sacrifice. There have been days we have had to choose to love each other. Where love was raw, dry, and a bit bitter. Some days you give 90% and you get 10%. Others it’s 50/50. But we have found that when you push through the hard times, when you stick with it, and you work through it, when you walk through it together instead of alone you come out of it stronger, better equipped to take on future bumps in the road, and more appreciative of all that the other person brings to the table. It’s in that place that genuine love begins to flow fresh and new. It’s there you begin to see your lover through new eyes, and begin to fall for them all over again.
To be honest life is probably the simplest it’s ever been, and we don’t plan on changing that anytime soon. We have dreams and visions for new things, but we won’t let the pursuit of those dreams get in the way of enjoying life. Of enjoying our family. Of simply taking time to be in the moment, and being in the day to day. Green Couch Design might be changing, but the heart behind why we do what we do is the same. Our dream of designing and building a modern farm house gets closer everyday, and we love sharing our journey with you as business owners, designers, parents, and friends.
The good, the bad, and the sometimes awkward.
From the Farm
Our hearts and prayers truly go out to those who were affected by the storms this spring in Oklahoma. If you are able donate or volunteer you can find more information here.
Over our vacation Cale and I celebrated our 4th year of marriage. Our favorite anniversary tradition is to watch our wedding video and to remember where and how this whole adventure started.
It holds us accountable to our vows and the covenant we made to each other and before God.
To be honest this year has been one of the hardest years of our marriage. Not in the since of fighting or not getting along. This year we lost Cale’s dad to cancer and so we’ve been through a lot of emotional ups and downs.
More so than usual.
This year for Valentines Day we decided instead of talking about ourselves we would share some love advice from the real “experts”. We’ve been following Lauren Fleishman’s Kickstarter Project called Love Ever After and we are completely smitten! Sharing stories of couples who have been married for 50+ years Lauren is capturing these couples through photographs and collecting fun quotes about how they met and their “secret” to finding and maintaining love.
Get ready to fall in love with some really adorable old people…
“Sometimes we think we love when we don’t love. A lot of people say they are in love but really we were young and we really didn’t know what love was all about. But afterward we found out what love was! Love is sharing with one another. Don’t care what you have you share what you have. And be willing to give. Another thing I tell people now is that you have to be able to bend a little bit. Yes, love is a powerful thing. If you know what it means.” – Theauther and Annie Love
“We’ve been married for 66 years. We met in high school when I was 16 years old and my wife was 15 years old. And we’ve gone through life together. The love we feel now is a different type of love. It is a mature love. In the beginning, of course, there was a sexual attraction but right now sex has very little to do with it.”- Moe and Tessie Rubenstein
“What is the secret to love? A secret is a secret and I don’t reveal my secrets!” - Ykov Shapirshteyn and Mariya Gostsinnaya
Sometimes in your marriage you have to think back and remember what it was like when you we’re dating. What were the things that you just did to say “I love you” and how can you apply those things to your relationship now? They may not come as natural as they once did but after a little soul searching you’ll remember the simple things you once did to make that special someone feel all warm and gooey inside.
I remember a time when I was really good at at this. I would send Cale cards and make cute “I love you” books. Yes, I know… cheesy but hey it’s what I loved to do! In my opinion there is nothing better than a handmade Valentine’s Day gift. I think it has something to do with my childhood memories of cutting hearts out of construction paper, decorating an old shoe box with glitter, and adding as much red, white, and pink as possible! Handmade gifts, although simple, take time and thought and that fellas can go a lot farther than a box of chocolates!
This year let that special someone know all the weird, cute and funny things you love about them by making a handmade gift.
To help you get you started think of the things about that person that made you fall in love with them… and then onto the weird, quirky and even serious things that you cherish about them today.
At Green Couch Design we have a sweet spot for love and ALL the sappy and gooey moments that come along with it. We’ve been working the last two years with concrete and just so happen to come across this fun little design just in time for Valentines Day. Enjoy!
It’s been two years. Two years since Cale was laid off. Two years since this whole journey started. It’s funny how even now it still feels like we’re holding this little gift in the palm of our hands. It’s so small and beautiful.
We’re so proud of it and yet still a little nervous to give it away.
We do this because we truly love it. We do this because this thing inside of us calls us to it. Somewhere, something inside says we we’re made for this. We we’re made to do this.
And that my friends… is what keeps us going.
So here we are 1 year from the start. Last year this time we posted about new beginnings, and told a story about a little snail and our first leap into full-time self-employment. Well that little snail isn’t so little anymore, and it’s not something we can protect as much as it’s something we try to keep up with. Right there with us is our beautiful niece Ember who, it just so happens, is turning 1. We spent the weekend in Tulsa for her birthday and were amazed at how much the little snail had grown.
Leave it to a new mom to have the party of the century for her little girl. Everything was in circles…hmmm is she trying to say something about her little ball of joy? She is definitely running us in circles.
I think it’s safe to say that Cale and I are pretty much hopeless romantics. We love, love. True love. The kind that is not easy, the kind you wait for, and fight for. The kind that proves fairy tales can come true.
It was Valentines Day, 2006.
It’s hard to believe this December was the official 1 year launch of our little business. Who knew that last October, when Cale was laid off that, that would be the thing God would use to catapult us into this great adventure.