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Permission to be Mom

It’s Tuesday morning. The Laundry has piled up (again). The dishes are overflowing in the sink (again) and I still don’t have a single blog post ready for the week.

I’ve been struggling to figure out what all this means now that I am a mom. How do I balance daily life, chores, and Green Couch Design? With Cale working full-time on his architectural license I now have permission to just be a mom but I’m struggling with feeling like that is “enough”. I know that sounds terrible since I’m obviously taking care of our child but I struggle with not contributing financially. I feel like all I do is chase the chores into next week, sleep and feed baby.

Our heart for Green Couch Design has always been to combine both everyday life, our family, and our design careers into one. But figuring out how all of that actually molds together is the ultimate journey. Now that I’m here… I’m not quite sure what to do with myself or how our child will fit into it all? But I guess that is what makes it such a wonderful and scary adventure.

I always come back to a conversation Cale and I had before we were even married. It was after a series of honest discussions where I shared some of my deepest fears about our future together. Cale summed it up to this;

“Meg, at the end of the day, if all we do is raise great kids, who know who they are and what real family is… then we’ve changed the world”.

It’s that conversation that on days like today I have to remind myself that I’m doing the greatest thing a human can do. I’m raising a child.

Today, I give myself permission to be a mom. To let the dishes and the laundry stack up and to enjoy this season of watching our first born son sleep the morning away.

Have any of you other moms struggled with this? Any words of advice for us new moms?!

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7 Responses to “Permission to be Mom”
  1. Myrtle
    11.13.2012

    Praise the good Lord that he has blessed you with a beautiful healthy child and the financial stability to stay home with your new bundle. We don’t have that luxury and when I am at work all I can think about is being home with my baby and husband. It also means that as soon as my husband walks in the door, I pick up and leave for work. You have been blessed! Let the laundry pile up and forget about those dishes! These moments only happen once. :)

  2. 11.13.2012

    Totally get where you’re coming from. It’s difficult for me to be 100% comfortable in this new role even though it’s an unbelievably awesome role! For me, it’s been a great lesson though to slow down and be apart of the now. I needed this lesson :)

  3. Melissa
    11.13.2012

    It does get better. My second has just started sleeping through the night and it is amazing how your perspective changes positively when you arent sleep deprived. :)
    On a more serious note, raising a child is the highest calling there is, in my opinion. Invest in your legacy and I don’t believe you will be disappointed.

    • 12.06.2012

      Thank you ladies for sharing ALL your advice! It truly means a lot. We are slowing things down so we can enjoy every moment.

  4. Lisa
    11.13.2012

    Give yourself permission and enjoy it all Meg!! Seriously, I’m on the other side-it all went so quick. Having little guys has been part of the best parts of our lives. Simplify the house as much as possible, play with the little guy, go outside, walk, read your Bible, snuggle with Cale. It may be uncomfortable at times not helping financially, but God will see to it that you eat and get the basics covered. Trust him. He is still so little-you can go places easily, read, work on art. It is all ok-enjoy the coccoon. It gets tougher when the next one comes along-at least until they get old enough to entertain each other! =) Season to season …

  5. Colleen
    01.02.2013

    Hi – I just saw your post today and hope things are more comfortable for you. Becoming a parent is a wild ride, be sure to buckle in! Some days its the best thing ever and some days you look over your shoulder at the “before” life you left behind and just cry. And that is OK, you are not alone with those feelings. My best advice is not to try to shove a square peg into a round hole — ie to work like a dog to keep everything the same as it was. Scary as it sounds, life is different now so you need to unbuild to rebuild. It took me many years, much angst and lots of tears and self-disappointment to come to that conclusion. However, once I did, everything got really better really fast. : )

    • 01.09.2013

      Wow, thank you Colleen for your kind words and heartfelt advice. I’m taking it all down. One day at a time I’m finding my groove. :)


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