Re-Defining Legacy

Lately I’ve been questioning what it looks like to leave a legacy. Thinking about the life that we live, about looking back. I don’t know if it’s just because I’m getting older but the things that inspired me as a youth are not the same things that inspire me today. The things that inspire me today are the people I see that have left a legacy of a life well lived.

I think about Cale’s dad who passed away recently. I think about the man that he was and the man that I see in my husband as a result of that. I only knew my father-in-law for 5 years, but because of Larry’s love for family and how he raised his kids I continue to see pieces of him today. I see him in my husband who believes in the idea of family when the world would have you believe that it does not exist. I see the childhood roots that have grown Cale into the man he is today. The roots that are a result of a legacy.

When Cale and I first met I wanted to run off to Portland and take over the world. I was going to start my own design firm and become something BIG. I was totally serious. Yet, the more serious we got about sharing a future together the more scared I became about being “tied down”, about family, about being a mom. About loosing my career, my “dreams” to kids, to family, etc. I seriously would freak out and expect Cale to run off and find someone else to spend the rest of his life with. I knew how much he wanted to be a father and I expected my dreams to somehow scare him off. But he kept coming back. In fact, outside of my mother, he encouraged my dreams and believed in my heart more than anyone else (including myself)! He always seemed so confident and secure and when push came to shove I couldn’t believe that he actually wanted to share in this journey with me.

I’ll never forget the first time he said something that changed the way I pursue life. The way I define legacy. It was after a series of honest conversations where I shared some of my deepest fears about our future together. Cale summed it up to this;

“Meg, at the end of the day, if all we do is raise great kids, who know who they are and what real family is… then we’ve changed the world”.

Cale has never feared loosing family in search for my crazy dreams. And that is something that has been placed inside of him. It’s who he is. It’s a confidence and appreciation in living a simple life and being ok with that. That the focus of your life is being a “good guy”, who does “good things” and is “known” for being a great dad. Despite all my worry about “missing out” on changing the world… I see a mindset that has been passed down through his father. One that is helping me re-define legacy.

It’s about the journey. It’s about the life you live. It’s about celebrating your 80th Birthday and seeing the legacy of a family that would not be in existence without you.

For Cale and I we define legacy through family. We have a desire to raise our children together while doing what we love and making enough money to pay the bills (plus a couple of vacations here and there). If in pursuit of that we find fame and fortune… well, that’s even more icing on the cake! But ultimately, it really is that simple.

And for the first time, I can honestly say, I’m OK with that.

From the Farm


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I like curly lines, and the simple joys of life. Good coffee and the perfect souffle.

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One Response to “Re-Defining Legacy”
  1. 10.19.2011

    I love the honesty of this post, thank you for sharing. :)

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